Loneliness and the loop

One thing I finally realised, especially for foreigners, is how an ultra-modern lifestyle seems to leave everyone lonely, and then they are stuck in that loneliness and the loop that follows, which keeps them even lonelier. Here is the most common pattern that I assume happens in such cases. A person starts dating. In males, if they are moral, then they are looking to settle down; otherwise, it's a case of score and move on to the next. It is actually far worse for females who get abused in the name of fun and are left alone.

After that comes the live-in relationship phase. People seem to think that it is better than marriage, as they do not want to be bothered with anything, nor do they want any responsibilities. The irony is that even in modern marriage, people are of the mindset that their partner's pain is their own to deal with and want to make no effort to help them. Regardless, such live-in relationships do not give emotional fulfilment, which means the inner loneliness remains as is or gets worse. These superficial adjustments do not provide any strong base. They are meant to make things worse rather.

Then comes the third phase, which is the loop. Such people seem to go to therapists or psychiatrists, and they get advice that does not heal their emotional wounds but rather encourages them to manage and live with them. Then, such people often shift towards spirituality and try to find a guru. Sadly, they are still in loneliness as the so-called guru’s words only provide temporary consolation, and these gurus often charge a premium for selling their time to have such people get the opportunity for a one-on-one conversation. So both science and spirituality are being used to make money from such people. The proper solution is having a traditional age old lifestyle where marriage is meant for mutual growth and healing, where two people prosper together.