The issue is not about not being yourself

The issue is not about not being yourself, It is about being yourself, as people are afraid to show themselves as they are due to the fear of being judged by others. The reason people want to avoid being judged by others is that they are likely to be self-critical about themselves. Which is why some people seem to avoid being themselves in front of strangers. So what to do? It is better to do it in a slow process. Start by improving yourself first. Once you are satisfied and confident about yourself, you can begin to express yourself more openly. And take others’ criticisms lightly. It is not everyone who can provide specific feelings to every person, as only specific people can make certain people feel a certain way.

An introvert cannot suddenly switch to an extrovert as it is against her/his nature. However, even introverts can open up to those who make them feel emotionally safe and happy. Think of it as some flowers that do not fully bloom without the right circumstances. But a practical approach, in my opinion, here is to adapt and improve, whether it is professional or personal matters of life. Especially in relations like marriage, if one adapts, adjusts, and improves herself/himself for the other, it will make married life very harmonious, as eventually, your better half will also appreciate you for your efforts as a result.

You never know how showing your true self to someone might be more appealing to someone, as opposed to presenting yourself as something that you are not. If you are meant for someone and someone is meant for you, then either of you will be accepted as you are. Alternatively, either of you will improve enough to be accepted by the other person. We may not be good enough for everyone out there, but we are surely precious to some people or a select few. After all, self-realization is a vital part of the journey of life.